Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Lamenting the Lack of Blogworthy Events
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Love and Marriage
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Today I am Proud to be American
Friday, October 31, 2008
Is the Slime Indeed Bottomless?
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
The Final Weeks of High School
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Designer Hockey Mom Duds
Coolest Dogs Ever!!! (After Rupert the Noisy, of course)
Saturday, October 18, 2008
Twisted Logic
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Road Work
Sunday, October 5, 2008
I Want to Knit Again
"I have not knit in over 20 years. The last time I knit I made myself a sweater. It was a very nice sweater but it had very long arms. Now I have long arms so normally that would not be a problem but this sweater was made from a stretchy mohair yarn so each time I wore it and had it dry cleaned the sleeves got longer and longer and longer until finally they were a good foot longer than my actual arms. I eventually had to get rid of the sweater and I haven’t knit anything since.
But when my book club read The Friday Night Knitting Club and decided that in addition to discussing the book we would all begin a knitting project I got excited. The book was quite enjoyable and I began to have visions of the scarves and wraps and shawls and bags I would knit in fabulous silk, cotton and wool yarns. I had already decided that I was giving up on sleeves so sweaters would no longer be an option. I was pumped. Unfortunately, due to family commitments I was unable to attend the book club meeting but I did get a report from my friend Karen who picked both the book and the project.
The project, a scarf, was billed as a two hour effort; all ‘knit’ stitches, nothing fancy, no purls, no yarn-overs, no slip stitches or anything complicated. It was knit with a double strand of yarn so the idea was to pull one end from the outside of the skein and one end from the inside, hold them together and knit with the two strands. This is harder than it sounds. According to Karen much wine-fueled hilarity ensued as the yarn got increasingly more and more tangled. Eventually everyone managed to get untangled, cast on the 12 stitches and even actually knit a row or two. The evening was declared a success.
The next day Karen dropped my yarn and knitting needles off at my house so I could catch up. I read the directions, discovered that I had the wrong size needles, decided that I would cast on 14 stitches instead of 12 to make up for using slightly smaller needles and then I set to work. The outside end of the yarn was easy to find. I began to root around inside the skein to find the inside end. Then the tangling began. Two hour project indeed. After two hours all I had was a mess. I was supposed to have a scarf not a bagful of purple spaghetti.
Every night I tried to untangle the yarn with less and less success. Eventually my daughter, who, incidentally, was effortlessly creating a mohair and cotton confection with a definite lacy pattern on scary-looking double ended needles, suggested I cut the yarn at the knot and keep trying. I thought cutting was the easy way out so I soldiered on. Still I had no success.
My husband is a casual fisherman. Fishing lines frequently get tangled and he is quite good at getting them untangled. I thought that if I sat on the sofa with my purple pile of spaghetti and looked sad he might take pity on me and do the untangling for me. Sadly he did not rise to the bait.
Eventually I cut the yarn but it still didn’t help. Time was running out. It was two days before our next meeting and everyone supposedly was bringing their projects. I didn’t have a project; I had a mess. So I did what any sane person would do, and what I should have done sooner, I went to buy more yarn. This time I got two skeins so I would only have to deal with the outside end and the proper size needles. Then I got busy. Luckily by the time the meeting rolled around I had about 20 rows done and it actually was beginning to look like a scarf.
At the meeting we shared our projects, at least Karen and I did. The others said they ‘forgot’ to bring theirs but I think that was code for ‘I was embarrassed to bring mine.’
Karen decided against giving her scarf to her daughter-in-law as a birthday gift. It would likely send the wrong message as Karen had picked up a few stitches along the way and the shape of the scarf was definitely not rectangular. But she is thinking about a baby sweater for an expected grandchild and I still have the visions of scarves and shawls, so I think I will continue.
Our next book is The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society. I hope this doesn’t involve cooking."
I have a new project. It is supposed to be a felted hobo-style bag. Clearly I have not made much progress.
Saturday, October 4, 2008
Bud & Clamato
Sunday, September 28, 2008
Self-reflection
I went into the Christian ministry as a ‘fuck you’ to the religious tradition in which I grew up; a tradition that told me women were second class citizens, required to subjugate themselves to men.
For all their limitations and the difficulties in our relationship, I saw my mother and grandmother put a roof over our heads and food on our table every day of every year without the assistance of a man. I saw women come to church every week knowing that their husbands were waiting to beat the shit out of them when they got home because the husbands forbade them to go. These were damn strong women. And while I now may not share their beliefs I have to respect their strength.
These women were no second class citizens. They were under no obligation to subject themselves to abusive asshole husbands. They came to church for comfort and relief, yet they had no voice in a system that said only men had the right to speak; only men had the right to decide; only men had authority given by God over matters of the home and the church.
When I was 12 I asked my pastor if he would rather see a church close for want of a pastor or have a woman as pastor. He would prefer the church close. This was crap. As were the visiting preachers with their flow charts of ‘God’s Order for the Family’ with God as the head, Men next, and women and children together on the same bottom rung. More bullshit. More anger to fuel me.
I rebelled in the way I knew would piss them off the most. I signed up for seminary with the intention of becoming an ordained minister.
I graduated seminary cum laude. I had a baby in the middle of my studies and appalled male classmates by discreetly but unashamedly nursing her in classes where I was one of only a handful of women. I was a campus leader and agitator for the inclusion of women the great boys’ club of the church. I was ordained in the denomination of my choice.
I was serving as superintendent of the church’s Sunday School when I started school. One of the church's 'ministries' was to provide financial assistance to male seminarians. Their response to me was to inform me that I was no longer fit to have influence over the souls of the children since I was willfully and disobediently overturning God’s order.
Needless to say my future relations with that church were rocky. One of my greatest personal victories, as I defined 'victory' at the time, in this battle occurred when the church invited my then husband to preach on one of the weeks the pastor was on vacation. My mother, respected though no longer allowed to serve on a church board or committee on account of her being a woman and divorced and all and having no man under whose authority to operate, insisted that my husband would do no such thing unless I was invited to preach the next week. Surprisingly they caved and I preached from a pulpit to which, I was still officially denied access.
Whoever the writer, whatever their sincerity, it suddenly hit me that while I didn’t take myself all that seriously in my role as minister, other people did and I had absolutely no right to do what I was doing to them. I had no right to allow them to trust in an illusion. I had no right.
So I left. At the time I said it was because I needed a job with health benefits since my husband had been laid off. However true that was, it was not the whole truth. I could no longer sell my soul to the church. I could no longer maintain my personal integrity and my position in the church. I had said ‘fuck you’ to a religious tradition. Big deal. I was miserable playing a role, lying to myself and to the people who looked to me for truth.
So now, many years later, I am a reasonably happy agnostic, trying to live not for Heaven but for the day, the moment; for this life and not the next; trying to do good where I can and not do harm when I can help it. And it feels right to define my life for myself and not as a fuck off to a magical way of thinking.
Thursday, September 11, 2008
iTunes 8 Genius Feature
Saturday, September 6, 2008
The Larson-Aldrich Dirty Dish Reduction Act
A.) Each resident is allowed one coffee cup, one water glass and one glass for other beverages per day. These allotments must be reused for like beverages for the duration of the day. Beer glasses are exempt.
2.) Measuring cups and spoons should be cleaned and returned to their homes after each use.
Z.) If it possible to reuse a dish for a similar food, e.g. an english muffin plate used for breakfast can be re-used for a sandwich at lunch (or as they say in Osaka 'sandwitch').
These guidelines are entirely voluntary but in the interest of harmony and joy all residents should attempt to follow them as often as possible.
The View From Not There Part 1 - Shipley & Halmos
I am playing with the idea of blogging my thoughts as I check out the slides of the runway shows on www.style.com.
Friday, September 5, 2008
Safari Joe and Some of His Girls
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Rare Political Post
This is not meant to be a political blog. But this post is slightly breaking the rules. (And the occasional political post will keep Becki up to date on what is happening on the home front.)
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Surviving the Maze
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Char-Gar's Engrish Tee Shirt
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
You're So Vain????
I am trying to wean myself off celebrity gossip sites. I decided that I didn't need mean-spiritedness cluttering up my soul at this point. I have moved on to fashion sites. I like the Sartorialist-type sites where a roving photographer finds a regular person on the street whose outfit is particularly fetching, snaps a picture and posts it on a blog. The commenters are mostly positive; even if they don't care for the outfit they will applaud the wearer's courage. There are few if any trolls. I have found new ways to wear some of the things in my closet.
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
The American National Costume
Saturday, August 2, 2008
Coincidence? I Think Not
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Best Movie Musical EVER!!!
Monday, July 28, 2008
Hopefully Karma is Not a Bitch
Here is a classic ethical dilemma come to life. It is Sunday afternoon. There are about eight people on the subway car when a woman about 30 years old boards. She excuses herself and asks for everyones' attention. She then tells a story of how she fell asleep at the bus station and had all her money, credit cards, bus ticket, and insulin pens stolen. She stayed outside all night with nothing to eat or drink, she was scared. She says she called Travelers Aid and it would take three to seven business days to get her some help. What's more her dog is alone in her apartment and she has to be at work at 7 a.m. on Monday at a job she just started two weeks ago. She says a bus ticket is 11.99 and asks if anyone would be willing to give her one dollar toward bus fare home.
Sunday, July 20, 2008
Congrats, Hubby
Saturday, July 12, 2008
Instructions for Visiting the Miyajima Monkeys
My New Hero
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
R.I.P. Cat
Saturday, July 5, 2008
Today's Spinning in His Grave Person of the Day: Thomas Jefferson
Friday, July 4, 2008
July 4 Thoughts
In 1821, in a letter to John Adams, Thomas Jefferson, reflecting on contemporaneous events in
I shall not die without a hope that light and liberty are on steady advance...And even should the cloud of barbarism and despotism again obscure the science and liberties of
Much to Jefferson's great sorrow, were he to know, in the past 7 1/2 years the cloud of despotism has obscured the science and liberty not of Europe, but of Jefferson's own beloved and hard-fought-for United States.
With the upcoming election. let's seek to rekindle the flames of freedom so that the engines of despotism that have recently been rebuilt in this country will indeed prove feeble and be consumed by the renewed and rekindled flames of liberty and light.
Monday, June 30, 2008
Obama, Osama and Matt Lauer
I think he does it on purpose. This morning on the Today Show they ran a report on the newest search for Osama Bin Laden. When it was thrown back to Matt after the piece he immediately said 'Obama.......excuse me...........Osama........' and went on to talk about bin Laden. No stumbling on it, just out with it. As if there weren't enough folks already confused about Obama's name, Matt Lauer again pairs the next President of the United States with our greatest terror enemy. Do the Republicans pay him to do that or is he just a true believer?